Nothing happened. It's what it's always been. You're not "hearing" her. Remember, she "avoids" rather than "asserts"... which means she puts on a mask, has not presented you with the true reality; has told you what she thinks you want to hear in order to 'keep the peace'. But she can't take it any more, she feels trapped, and that's what I think you're seeing.
I feel however, if I start pointing out things to you, and I see many, and reason with you, that you'll likely again bite the friendly hand that was trying to feed you, so to speak. So I'm very hesitant to post much, because you probably won't like what I see, so what's the point? But I wished to give you a heads up.
Anyway, I feel for you, Frank, and I really feel for your wife. Let's see what happens next.
