Quote: Are we enabling our WAS because of our strength of commitment and high pain tolerance?
I know personally I am different person because of this, and I have found a strength I never thought I had. I can see it in Frank, TMU, and many of the others who have posted and we should be proud of that!
I don't think we are 'enabling' them. They would do what they are going to do anyway. We are just buffering the effects on us and our kids and them of course. We COULD go batsh*t like most people and start mean awful divorce proceedings but all that would accomplish is a lot of hate, hurt and animosity. They would still do what they are going to do - just be bitter with us too.
By doing what we are, we are able to influence the outcome and stop a lot of unneccesary hurt from happening.
