Quote: Tim: Frank again your strength is amazing and I always appreciate and learn from your posting!
Thank you. I don't see that I have strength that is any greater than the rest of us on this board. I feel the same feelings, the same needs, the same wish for the pain to be over. I hurt right now just "because". No particular reason, just hurting and feeling alone. It will pass.
Everyone who is HERE on the board and doing something to rebuild their marriage is showing great strength. Most people would fight, give up, move out. That's why there is a 50% divorce rate.
You have great strength. It's much easier to run away. That doesn't take any strength. Thats what our WAS's did.
I do know that I have one gift in particular that is being tested now - Being able to love unconditionally and absorb whatever hurt I have to, if it means that someone I love will better themselves and find a happier life with or without me. And I can absorb a LOT of hurt, I've been doing it all my life.
I love my wife enough to do that for her. To help her to learn how to be her own person without getting her identity from me or any other man.
And if the day comes that she moves out, or falls in love with someone else 'for real' I'll hurt, but I'll be happy for her because I only want the best for us both.
It's easy to say, but I truly hope I don't ever have to do it.
