Something that I have noticed now reading the men's threads...there seems to be a pattern with the WAWs that I am noticing...the men are controlling and the wives are not very assertive in expressing themselves...how does this get broken? How do we as women find a comfort level to express ourselves and feel safe and secure with our Hs...and how do the men find the trust to let go of the control?
Trust!!!! That is the key! Alot of the men are very similar including myself, that we have been very controlling. It is a vicious circle we get in.....spouse puts up road blocks, and stops communicating, H wants to express himself and starts to control situation to get what he wants! I can only comment from the man's perspective but I started to let go of my control when I started to work on myself more and let my W do her thing! Tough at the start but easier as it went on. I am currently trying to let go more again because the OM is back in the pic.
Frank again your strength is amazing and I always appreciate and learn from your posting!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
