Ok, now that we have survived Fridays event, both at my house and on this bulleting board, Sunday was a big change.
As I mentioned, W went to this spiritual church this morning. The speaker spoke about how we have to have balance between our intellectual self and our intuitive self to be able to know God. Also, that we see God in every person we meet.
Later that evening, she started talking about the concepts and what they mean in her life. She thinks that if she stays with her intuition when making decisions, she is usually ok. But when she uses her intellect she messes things up. She interpets that as her intellect being off balance. I have actually been studying these concepts and they are much simpler than they were presented.
It goes like this: If you use your intuition to 'know' that something is possible you may act on it, or you may not. Why? Because your Intellect doesn't believe that your intuition exists so therefore it cannot influence your life.
When your Intellect has accepted God, and the spiritual benefits of being a spiritual being, you will then be closer to God, and closer to being able to heal people of their hurts.
Something like that anyway.
Today, I was given a test. I think I did pretty good. Here it is:
In the afternoon we decided to go kayaking. We loaded the 'Yaks' on the roof of my truck and while doing that, W made a mistake with the tie downs and one fell off the roof into the driveway.
TEST: What will Frank do? YELL and make her feel bad? (180) Nope. I laughed that they are not supposed to fly, they go in the water, and help her pick it up to try again.
TEST: It was very windy as we got on the road. The Yaks shifted on the roof. W was nervous and asked "Shouldn't you check the ropes?" Now if you've read any relationship books you know a QUESTION is really a REQUEST. So I say 'good idea' and pull over to check the ropes, which were perfect.
Well we drove for about an hour with no issues because they were tied quite well but shifted a little with the wind.
W and I talked about various topics, most of which I can't recall but we made lot's of eye contact, smiled and generally very pleasant to be around. She is still behind a wall, talks to me like some guy she happens to know. But the laughs were genuine and when I made some comments that were about emotional stuff (No R talk) she kept eye contact when replying.
After we got to the launch area, the waves were too high se we decided not to go in the water. We went to the playground and spent about an hour with the girls running around on the play structure.
Left to go to McDonalds. Got food. Kids playing video games.
Wife says to me : I've been thinking about my financial obligations. (Last week I told her she had to pay 1/2 te utilities. She saw what her budget is without MY income and panicked.
W: I see I can get a job at a spa or chiropractor. (she is a massage therapist). But I wouldn't make more money and I might make less. So I have been thinking about starting my own Serminar series to teach the Hawaiin massage.
(I'm surprised)
W: I think I can double my income if I teach at one massage school every two weeks. It would be better than working a spa. But I wouldn't be able to pay all the bills I will owe for 3 months.
ME: Well, that's ok for now. I have faith that you will do this and make it work out.
W: (looking down) Well, I really have been wanting to have a partner to work with and teach these classes but I am resigned to not having anybody, and doing it myself.
NOTE: OM said he wanted to do that with her a couple weeks ago. Earlier she had said she was going to travel all around teaching with a soulmate partner. What happened?
Me: Where will you teach?
W: Around here, just this area :Note: Plan with OM was travel the country, teach in big cities.
We talk about her needing a resume and brochures so her biggest fear is that she won't be able to make a good one. Now, one of the things I DO is brochures and websites. AFter the 'bomb' and she moved into her own room I made it clear that since we are 'separated' she should figure out her computer problems on her own, don't ask me until you are desperate.
I kind of felt that part of the 'Don't Help' phase is over for me. If she asks for help, I'll be there.
She went on to talk about how scared she is and I told her that I ALWAYS have faith in her abilities.
She KNOWS that, it's been brought up in therapy in many ways. If she could see that I'm better now, and I have the resources at my disposal to help he be a success. She needs to see that TOGETHER we help each other achieve our goals. Not yet though. So far I have granted her a few months to come up with her share of the expenses (yeah, like I would evict her.)
We left to come home and overall I would say the day was the MOST pleasant day we have had. She was still guarded but liked my witty remarks and I made a lot of eye contact.
Well, there you have it. A good day followed by an interesting talk about spiritual stuff. She still hasn't realized than she is behind in her growth and I am way ahead in mine.
I made sure I went to my room first to play 'detached'.
Fun day. I could do this again. It was almost like we were a family
