Wow, I am sorry that I missed that. I hadn't realized OM had a GF. How does your W deal with that. She can rationalize that she is not "cheating" on you because she "is leaving" you. But how does she take any pride in being the OW in his life. Do they fight about it alot? Don't know how much you know about their sitch.
Anyways, I agree, I don't see him moving to be with her. I could see him coming out to get a piece of A**. Have known men like that. But still most likely not. It will cost money and GF will not like that. Chances are he will not want to ruin HIS own life just to see her.
Also the lack of contact might just be that caused by the lack of physical influence. Most A's are most intense when face-to-face. When apart, you have time to think about reality and what you are really willing to accept. Also lets face it phone calls can only be romantic and sexy for so long, then they get repetitive and the stimulation wears off.
I know right now, it she has checked out on your R, but if the shine is wearing off the OM, there is a chance. She will become very lonely and vulnerable. Since you have so much connecting you two, there is every chance in the world she will reconnect with you if you continue to show her that you are changed, and care about her safety and well-being.
In some past posts, you have questioned whether you want her back as a weak and vulnerable woman. Problem with is you chose her that way. Maybe you can look to hoping for her to reconnect even as pathetic as it may seem at first. Then as you have grown and become stronger again, maybe you can help her to grow with love also.
I know I am a sucker for happy endings, but then I think we all are or we wouldn't be here.
