Personally, I don't think your wife is ever going to see OM again. You mentioned that they are in less contact right now than they were before, right? Why would the contact lessen if they supposedly have this upcoming Feb. visit planned? My guess is that OM has no intention of seeing your wife again. What she believes, however, is another story. Maybe in time she will figure out that her R. with him is not really a R. at all. Keep up the excellent DB'ing and keep going to counseling. I think you are doing all you can right now.
She saged her room while we were gone. That's a thing spiritual people do to purify the room and chase away bad spirits. I did recall her thinking that her getting messed up last nite was another 'attack' from someone who doesn't like her, i.e. OM's GF. That's one of her few crazy things she believes. So, then, she believes OM's gf put some kind of curse on her, and that is why she got sick? All right, craziness aside, then what she's saying is that OM's gf would have a reason to not like her. So, your wife must realize then that OM's gf is still in the picture somehow. Maybe she will start to get it. I believe what Sassy says: that OM and his gf are still together a lot more than he's admitting to your wife.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
