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hopefulmommy:
I've been silently following your sitch because I find it so inspirational. This is a painful time right now, but through the pain you just made a huge step. You're wife seems to believe that you have changed or believes you more than she did before. That is a huge step towards reconcilation. It was a painful experience to reach, but you will soon see the results


Thanks for your supportive words. I hope she saw 'something'
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cluelessj:
I can understand to an extent why your W may not have been very visibly emotional in the morning. There are so many emotions that she has never experienced before that it can be overwhelming. It was easier for you to recognize what you were experiencing and express it because you are going through so much personal growth. Unfortunately, she still is not at the same level and is lost. Give her some time, just be supportive and caring as you already are. These actions will speak volumes to her


Hey, I think your explanation is great. I DO see things clearer than she does. I also see the opportunities to learn from this experience, and she doesn't just yet. Thank!
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AmyC:
You may be interested in my last post on my thread "WAW. Saved by grace through faith" over in Seperated, what now?



I read it, it was great! Thanks again Amy

Well, quiet day / nite tonite. W was very pleasant when we were around each other but as part of 'letting go' I was happy, smiling, polite .... and gone as soon as the conversation ended. I ended up going out this evening for an hour or so with D15 and when we returned W was in the bathroom, so I went to my room. She didn't come up to say goodnite or anything. So, I gotta remember where she's at: ILY with OM who is far away and they are making contact less for some reason. See's us as gone, or as she put it last week 'too late'. And she's working on getting a job so she can support herself. So I'm still on the outside of the relationship circle. No problem.

I was kinda hoping that a little bit of that wall she has might have dropped given the drug incident last nite and the fact that I totally dropped it today.

She saged her room while we were gone. That's a thing spiritual people do to purify the room and chase away bad spirits. I did recall her thinking that her getting messed up last nite was another 'attack' from someone who doesn't like her, i.e. OM's GF. That's one of her few crazy things she believes.

And it;s only been 3 months. OM needs another 3 months to show his hand to her and most friends of mine simply can not beleve he would move out west for her. That would be stupid.

My best friend has a wager going with me. $100 says OM doesn't move. $50 says that he hurts her / dumps her (but they can stay friends) by the end of February.

ANy takers?


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