frank,
I agree with Amy and I think, although NYS is being somewhat harsh, he does make valid point. You are not alone in always wanting to be right. I have struggled with this all my life and it just got worse the older I got. Now I see it adn most of the time, and this is true DBing applied to life, I just let things go and agree. The other day I got my hair done. Now my barber likes to talk, push peoples buttons, and make a lot of erroneous statements which I do not agree with. In the past this would lead me to get up on my soapbox and speak. This time I just agreed, had fun with it, and let him run with it. It was entertaining to say the least and I practiced my agreeing. At one point I actually got him to agree that he was wrong, without him realizing it . In a way, this is much more enjoyable than argueing.

As for your Ws actions this morning, I would say she is full of guilt and confused. Use these opportunities to plant the seeds of doubt as per the D. "Honey, I just want you to know that I will be here for you when we are Ded. At least as long as I am single...then who knows". You must show her you are ok with a D. Turn the tables on her. You already have with the finances.

AK