Since I was the one who was there I looked at the situation and could clearly see it was NOT a medical emergency.
You're a doctor? Then OK.
She was high and being irrational.
You're a psychiatrist too? Then OK.
I'd think having your heart racing at 120 and feeling dizzy is quite a rational basis for seeking medical attention.
Taking her to an emergency room would have created complex LEGAL problems for no good reason. It would have required explaining to the kids why we were gong to the hospital at 9 at nite, and I'm sure scaring them.
And a lawyer? Wow.
Having been a student of law myself, I think there was good legal reason to do as she asked, actually. Willful neglect comes to mind. Certainly her reasons were better than yours.
C'mon! Her heart's racing due to her ingestion of drugs. It's a frickin' medical condition. She ASKED to be taken to the hospital. What you gave aren't reasons you *don't* take someone to a hospital.
So, let me ask you... what time of the night is it OK to take someone to the hospital? And what does the legal status have to be?
If I had felt it was an EMERGENCY you bet your A$$ I would have done something immediately.
Ditto Sassy.
I think you're projecting your own experience onto mine and judging me as if I was your dad doing this. I'm not.
No, I posted that to show that I'm sensitive to what you did, which was minimize the reasonable concerns of their loved one's condition. Or didn't do, actually. I wasn't saying that experience between my parents was the same as yours or for the same reasons, though I see all the reasons in both events as being rationalizations.
"Judging" you? No. I think you're the one projecting here, Frank. No where in my post did I judge you. I didn't call you a bad boy. I pointed out how your wife views this episode and that it's important to honor that. If I'm "judging" anything at all, it's your call I'm judging, not you.
In fact, that comment alone suggests to me that you do feel, somewhere deep inside you, that you suspect you should've responded differently to her and feel a leeelte twinge about that... c'mon... don't hide behind pride, you're among friends here, Frank.
Whatever. Bottom line doesn't change for you, despite the rationalizations. W sees it as neglect. She told you so. I'm telling you so as an observer, and because I'm telling you the same thing basically that your wife told you, you're reacting in the same vein toward my response. Really think about this. If you neglected this, in her view, which she thought kinda important enough since it concerned her physical well-being, how do you think she'd consider you'd be in other less important aspects of your life together?
