Quote: Maybe we should all start a program "How to be independent without affection"?
... from someone whom we have become dependent on for it...
We can get affection from our kids, our friends, our parents, our brothers and sisters. I hold my D10 at least once a day for a minute or two. I make sure I relax and breath slowly and deeply so I can feel and give love. It energizes me and I know it makes her feel secure.
We're ADDICTED to getting it from our S. It just takes time. It takes at least 90 days to begin to break your body of a physical addiction...
I agree my kids who are 2 and 4 give me so much! Each nite I take that 1/2 at bedtime to really slow down and really see my purpose in life, and that is to be the best role model and example to my kids! They love us unconditionally and I want to ensure I give that back to them!
On the addiction front...I want the affection, I don't want to remove it, I want to learn to appreciate it when it is there, how to recipocate, and not be dependent on it! Is that possible, or do we have to go through the withdrawl?
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
