the slow walk home 2

[Tim297181]

Anyone else had any experiences with WAW who has OM, and / or had to get a job and other things to establish her independence? What did they do? Get more or less distant?

Unrelated note: Cell phone logs show that they did not talk from Dec 25th to Jan 7th although she DID call him several times but did not connect. But I'm not snooping her mail so I have no idea what they talk about in the past 2 weeks but I do know they are still e-mailing and IM'ing.

My W got a job this summer, and it energized her. She used it to ut some distance between her and I "Saying she needed to focus in her new career!" That last for about 2weeks until she started to complain about work, and wanted to talk to me daily about her job was going! In the end becasue of the kids it helped my sitch because it showed her how hard it would be on her own! Then she went back to school in Sept full time and this is when she really started to depend on me and see how hard it really is! That is when we got back together in Nov and started to recouncil. Ironic that now she is comfortable with the routine that I am "there" for her she wants her space again and the OM is back in the pic!