Quote: It's been a over a week and he's not brought it up, even though we have talked since then.
Do you have any financial information? Do you know what he will be having to pay when you are divorced? Make some educated guesses and write a letter to him telling him that this is what you believe the state will require of you two. It's like a 'confidence' move and a 'reality check ' at the same time.
I would word such a letter / e-mail so it sounds as if you are asking him for 'help' figuring it out so you can make plans for your future and you would be grateful for help from him. That'll irk him because you are asking him to help YOU do what HE says he WANTS but is avoiding. He would be able to cope much better if you were threatening him, but you won't do that now, will you. You just need his HELP!
Quote: Anyway, you're doing great, Frank. I share your feelings on not wanting a spouse to return to the M for financial reasons. What kind of life is that?? I still feel very positive about your sitch. Let's hope W continues with indiv. C. I think you have a gem with that C.
Thanks, I really, really hope everyone is right and I'm the one who is wrong. I'm naturally a pessimist and expect the worst so I can prepare to survive it. My detachment is actually going well. I don't feel angry and I am pleasnt when I do talk to her, I just don't stick around when the conversation lulls. I also don't go looking for her to 'just talk'. Shes acting very neutral or slightly pleasant yesterday and today. Kind of like she is 'in control' of her things and she feels ok about it. Not doing anything different, not coming to me to talk about anything unless she has to. So it makes me feel like maybe she doesn't care.
But it's only been 2 days and we do talk at the family dinner table. I need to be patient.
Today, just today, I would so appreciate any sign of affection like a hug or something. I don't NEED it, I just would like it.
Hey, on a different note, last nite I looked on 'match.com' to see what kind of women in my age range and local area there are. Quite a few actually and most were very pretty. A few had some common interests but the ones we didn't have i common were things I didn't care to do. But, there actually was on woman who had raised 3 kids for the past 7 years after a divorce and they were 18 or so and she said 'I don't need a man to be happy, but I miss the companionship and am looking to meet someone with similar interests'. I was thinking about how she would have been the 'DB'er' in the divorce and how she had the strength to care for her kids on her own. She was 42 and was actually kinda cute.
Anyway, I guess it's helping me to see that there are other, stronger women out there who could be compatible with me.
