the slow walk home 2

[spitfire23]

Hey Frank,
Sounds like you've got some positives going on. Keep it up.

Let's talk finances for a moment, shall we? I don't get what the WAS is thinking at all. I'm on the opposite side of this situation than you as my H is the wage earner and will have to be paying me to settle all of this up.
Showing your W what her life will be like while still providing a safety net is a very good idea, I think. I wish I could make my H see how his decisions are going to impact
him financially There doesn't seem to be a way to give him that "test" until it's a done deal.

My H has walked away from a beautiful home. He owns a percentage of 2 companies, both valued in 7 figures. He makes a ton of $. In Ohio, marital assets are split 50/50 with no regard to "marital misconduct". Child support is set by guidelines and usually followed fairly strictly. The only variable is spousal support which several lawyers have told me is influenced by marital misconduct. At the end of the day, I'm going to be fairly financially secure and my H is going to be in a much worse financial situation. I don't think he has figured this out yet. He's going to be working the next 20 years just to pay me off. He continues to express his desire for us to work this out "amicably" but I think it might behoove him to speak to at leasst one attorney (he loathes attornies) so that he hears from someone else that he's just booked passage on the Titanic.

I do not want to ruin my H financially but he is the one who is walking away. Would I be better off financially if our marriage survived? Absolutely! Will I be destitute if our marriage dissolves? NO. MY H IS CHOOSING ALL OF THIS. It is out of my control. And the saddest part is......he loves me (his words)! So. What can I say? I don't think there is a test run for my H in order to make him wake up.
What do you think?

Sorry for the hijack.

Spitfire