The financial thing is a MAJOR part of my sitch too. I think my W has not even considered for one minute what a D would mean to her, me or the kids in terms of financial well-being. You know, when I look over the history of your sitch, it kinda makes me wonder just what it takes for these people to realize what we are willing to do for them, and us. I guess the power of the devil you don't know is more than the one you do, even if they've transformed themselves into a halo-toting angel before your eyes. WTH! You have done so much and she's just stared back at you, lost in her drug (OM) induced world, watching you transform from a depressed man unable to care for you OR her, to a man embracing his own issues, dealing with them AND still finding room in his heart to try to insure HER growth as a person through all this. Truly astounding when you think of it and the sad part is that the codependent...er..optimistic married man in me is willing to brush aside recognition of all that personal growth for one more night of love (not sex) from my wife, and also wish that for you. I guess it's how we're wired, or at least I am. You have made such great strides in your life and I can only hope to be there someday. I truly hope I am there standing with my family and can't think of another way. I still have a lot of work to do...keep yours up!
