I have an update. I tried to talk to my H and ask him if he was cheating again. I made sure I told him that it was for me. It had nothing to do with not trusting him, or acusing him of anything, but that I needed to know for myself and he got furious. He told me that if I can't trust him after 3 years then it wasn't worth his time to listen and he is refusing to talk to me again. So I told him I would aviod him if he wanted, and he did, so now if he is in one room I go to another and told him if he wanted to talk to me he knew where I was. He's said very little to me since.