Before the problem started, we were your basic newlywed couple, PDA, holding hands, kissing, etc. When we were alone the sex was great everything went how you would expect, lots of foreplay and then whatever came next. I admit I have been different toward him because almost 3 years ago right before Thanksgiving I went over to his house to see him and I caught him in bed with OW. and he promised me that it was a mistake and it just happened. Well that wasn't exactly true... He had been seeing her for almost 4 months and I was really hurt by that. But we worked through that and we decided to get married and everything was going smooth until I found out that he was chasing someone else (a lot of phone and internet meetings trying to get something set up) and after that I left him. Somehow we ended up getting back together and things were going great then we got married, and the sex was better than ever. then we decieded we were going to try and have a baby. That worked for about a month and then all of a sudden he didn't want to. his excuse was "we tried for a month and nothing happened so oh well" which really hurt and things just got worse from there, then things staretd to change. They were small changes at first like when we would fool around it was both of us getting oral and then he'd say he was too tired for anything else and we would finish some other time he's day it was an I.O.U. Then the next time I'd get the sex but nothing else, and when I asked about this he said everything was fair. Then it got to the point where I had to choose what I wanted, I couldn't have both, while no matter what I choose he had to get a bj "because his initial problem had to be solved first" So when I confronted him on New Years and told him it wasn't fair that I had to choose he basically told me that I was only going to get what he was giving which was basically sex with nothing else, or I wasn't getting anything at all. And that made me even madder which led to a huge fight. After a few days I just left him alone and when he calmed down enough to where he would start talking to me that's where the answer came from that everything has changed. When I was asking him what he thought changed he refused to answer it. He acts like he dosen't want to be with me anymore but he can't admit it, and it hurts more than if he would just say it's over. So I asked him to let me help and just talk to me about what is bothering him and he told me that nothing is ever going to change and he is not willing to make any changes because he claims he has and I am not paying attention enough to see it. I don't want to be mad at him, but when I see him I get so sad and my eyes tear up as to the point I'm going to cry and he gets p.o and walks out of the room. I can't help it. I've tried not to do it but I can't seem to control it. He won't tell me what the problem is and I don't know what to do to make my part right.
