Thanks... but oh, puhleeze. Well, you may not feel that way after this post.
I've read a lot of your advise - good stuff.
Yeah, thanks. At this point, I think I agree with you.
Am I to interpret from your humorous fairytale that reality will (eventually?) set in as Michele states on p16 of DR that "affairs often end and reconciliation is possible as long as the betrayed spouse <me> doesn't become retaliatory."
Oh, I'm sorry to have given you that impression. No, from my humorous fairytale you may interpret that I have a sense of humor. From MWD's writing, that's pretty much face value. No joking around there.
I wonder what those 'often end' percentages really are?
Affair statistics are questionable, as the data may not be unadulterated (sorry, made another clever joke there, thank you very much, you've been a lovely audience, get home safe!)... but I think it's "most". Odds may be in the favor of the A fizzling out, but there are many other factors to consider here. One of them is the WAS. They may not return, A or not. The other is time, the A may go on for years. All the more reason for you to heal in the meantime and GAL.
Given there's obvious codependency involved between WAW & OM/BIL, does that increase the likelihood their EA/PA will crumble sooner rather than later? never?
Who knows? There are SO many factors that affect the circumstances. Put it this way... whatever the stats are... it doesn't matter because it's happening in YOUR life, so the stat is 100% whichever way it goes.
Does the old adage hold true: "Once a cheater, always a cheater?" I can see how that's obviously true of OM/BIL, now what about WAW?
While they say past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, people aren't exactly robotic in nature. People can change. Some do, be it OM/BIL, WAW, you or me.
