NYS, I'm honored by your post, I've read a lot of your advise - good stuff. Am I to interpret from your humorous fairytale that reality will (eventually?) set in as Michele states on p16 of DR that "affairs often end and reconciliation is possible as long as the betrayed spouse <me> doesn’t become retaliatory." I wonder what those 'often end' percentages really are? Given there's obvious codependency involved between WAW & OM/BIL, does that increase the likelihood their EA/PA will crumble sooner rather than later? never? Does the old adage hold true: "Once a cheater, always a cheater?" I can see how that's obviously true of OM/BIL, now what about WAW?
