How can we get them back?

[WindyCityBeth]

What? If I am so great why did he choose to leave me for someone else and why can't he end it with her and work on us?


Ah. The big question. My H tells me all the time how great I am. How he still loves me. But yet, he is in an apartment and here I sit alone. But I'm not waiting. I have been rekindling friendships and making new ones. Doing fun stuff with the kids. Doing things for me. Went back to work. I have realized that I am truly a wonderful person. And I don't know if H really deserves me. I will tell you though this has been a long, strange, journey for me. I have known about the A for 16 months. So, I have been at this a while. And while DBing may not save my marriage, it helped me save ME. I do feel like I found myself again and I am now able to be a better wife, mother, and woman. We'll see if H can get his head out of his a@@ in time!

Hang in there. Take the focus off of him. Put it all on you. Our H's are in selfish mode and can think of only one thing - themselves. They are not out to hurt us, even though it feels that way. They are just really stuck in "me" mode. It's all about them. So shift your focus. It is so hard at first, but it does get better. If I can do it, anyone can!

WCB