How can we get them back?

[PArob]

The sad part is the realization that "winning them back" may not be in the cards. Its the journey to the goal that means the most. And while you're on that journey its important to reflect upon oneself and build that person up. Reading that again, I think I'm being negative. Sorry. But I guess that's kind of what I'm thinking right now. My W said to me last night that it appears that I'm trying to live life w/o her in the picture. WHAT??!? I don't remember making that decision! But the point is, we were all "somebody" before the relationship and we need to be "somebody" right now. Our spouses aren't contributing to those feelings, so we need to reach inside ourselves and find that somebody. In that process, we all hope that the spouse will see us as we used to be. Think about it. When you first met your W or H, were you brooding or emotional? Probably not. They fell in love with you.