How do I deal with Valentines day? How are you going to? Could there be a more painful day of the year to be going through this? As it approaches I may need a lot of help maintaining. It has always been a special day for me and my W. It's the day I proposed to her and I can't imagine how powerful my feelings are going to get as it gets closer. What if she just spends the day with the OM? I really don't know if I could take that.