Confronting the other man

[BeingMe]

Hi Tnglator! Here is my extremely humble opinion.....

I think it takes more courage to walk away, then to seek vengeance on your WAW or the OM (especially the OM - you don't know what things your WAS might've told him - lies she might've told about you. He might've thought he was saving her from you - it's usually all fantasy stuff, but they are unaware of that). Now is the time for you to work on yourself, to move past this, to forgive all those involved, for your own sake, not necessarily for theirs. Concentrate on your career, takes some courses, get out and meet new people, take up a new sport or hobby.

Vengeance is mine, sayeth the Lord, and I believe this, and also believe that you reap what you sew. If you need to vent, do it here, or seek counselling.

You can do this!

PS Also been in the military (another country), and I know all about what goes on on a military base. Hoo boy!