well should I do this or not? I wanted to tell him that I love my wife and that he is totally in the wrong. Would this anger the wife even more. She has already filed for divorce.
I don't know your sitch, but ask yourself this question. Will this help me help me acheive my goal? I believe it would only push her more towards him. IMHO
He's having an affair with a married woman, do you think he's going to suddenly grow a conscience?
I know I WOULD LIKE TO DO IT MYSELF but i don't think it would help. Good luck.
im angry, I'm a military officer and so is this guy, he shouldn't be doin stuff like that and I [rpbably could ruin his career but I'm a strong christian man, I didn't want to get in a fight but wanted to tell him to let go. Her B-day is in 2 days, should I at least send her a card.
Stay away from the OM! I had a chance to confront the OM once and just walked away! I scared the #$%#^ out of him by just the look on my face and he got the message Send a card on her birthday but keep it short! Do not know the situation but try to say something a little different in the card that she would not expect! Catch her attention a little and create a little mystery!
Tim
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why is it bad, maybe he didn't know she was married. Maybe if i told hime to leave her alone he weould. Of course being in the military I could have him ORDERED away from her. You guys think this would be a mistake? Thanks. You can read my full story at some of my other postings. I haven't posted in months.
Do what you feel you have to do but remember you are not dealing with logical or rational thought reguarding your wife. In her mind you would/will have destroyed her chance at true love.
I aapreciate everyone's input. I just feel like a chump sitting around and doing nothing. I figuresd that if I did confront him it might seam to her as if I really did want to fight for her and that I do trulet love her. I don't know i guess that would be wishful thinking.
Quote: I aapreciate everyone's input. I just feel like a chump sitting around and doing nothing. I figuresd that if I did confront him it might seam to her as if I really did want to fight for her and that I do trulet love her. I don't know i guess that would be wishful thinking.
Understandable...but no need to sit around doing nothing and feel like a chump...get out and do something with yourself!! That will take your focus off him...remember this is never about the op...as someone pointed out they just represent a bandaid to the true pain of the relationship.
Try not to sit there and do nothing! Trust me that is the worst! Workout, do something to distract yourself! The mind plays horrible games with you, and "I have been there and got the T-shirt"! Even today I am doing it! Try and remain positive! YOur W will do what she wants you need to start changing yourselg and acting different! My wife took notice once I started to act andlok different and the same can happen to you! Read my posting if you get a chance, maybe it will help. It is tough right now but we all will hang in there together!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
