Oh my brain is not functioning yet as I am sitting here pmsl, I read Could you take one off my hands, please? as Could you take OFF one of my hands? and I am thinking what are you doing with your hands?
Preggo it has only been 4 months and lawyer's involved already. I am amazed at how quickly things move over there. Us Aussies must be more laid back, I think it is as we are basically a lazier nation and if it came to the choice of going to the pub or lawyer, pub would win every time. But 3 years is the general time span from go to whoa with people I know who've gone through divorce.
So no real advice on the contacting H thing. It would be nice/cheaper if things could be as informal as possible, but you need to make sure you are protecting yourself and the bambinos.
I still find post it notes I have written to myself that I will not contact wah. Much better now, except on those alcohol fueled nights.But I have stern words with myself. I think that 24 hour rule is always a good thing.
