ZB,

This is not a solution, just wanted to say I agreed with NOP about the guilt and religiosity. Thats why I thought your sitch was unworkable. Untill you change your ideas and thoughts about those two things. When you can find it in you to deserve and enforce - yes I said enforce, very aggresive word enforce is--respect from your W.

you said that seperation was unfeasable. You have two homes that you are supporting? you could concievably stay, and put her in the other home? or once it is sold then would have the resources for other alternatives. I would never ever leave and let her stay and reap the rewards of everything that you, or you and her have worked for.

Do you see the big picture in general? are you a network admin? (rhetorical) In this case you have to just take one bite at a time or you will get overwhelmed. Stop looking at how impossible it is to get where you want to go. Just do what has to be done. 1 thing at a time. Write down the steps, like NOP is demonstrating.

As for the dogs. I would shoot em. a .22 cost about $ .05 ? less then the food and water, shots etc.

bring another one home and I would without hesitation put it down. But I grew up on a pig farm in Iowa. So my squeamishness about putting down or slaughtering animals is probably not the norm. They are condemned animals, and your wife is Forcing you to deal with the unfortunate scraps and trash of others mistakes. I thought this long before you posted it, but since the thought has crossed your mind, Ill say it. That is what I would do.

I think if you do this one time and she will not do it again. You can tell her before hand, then let her test you. Dont fail.

your getting some great advice for the different aspects of your sitch.

I dont mind at all that you 'singled me out' before, ZB. I can handle it. Im also glad that you have a new thread going. Your frustration and hurt is understandable and real. The hardest part of dragging yourself out of the mud is finding that first good handhold. Everyone here wants to throw you that Hand.