ZBube...you mean to say you have daughters that are so hurt by her that they don't even want to be around her? That is huge. That is terrible! Doesn't your wife even care about that?
It seems to me you hold the ball in this court. Your children don't like their own mother. And your wife don't and won't work?? Then if you left her and she had to deal with things by herself for awhile maybe it would be the wake up callo she needs. When you have a mental disorder sometimes you just need a huge huge kick in the rear to see things a little more clearly. So let her try to support herself for awhile. Let her find a job and have to pay child support to you because you will have custody of the children it seems. It sounds to me like this woman needs a good kick in the rear right now.
Maybe she just knows you are a push over and she can get away with the things she does. I once knew a woman who sounded a lot like your wife does. When she was asked once why she treated her husband the way she did....she responded by saying because I know I can. He will never go anywhere.
