Quote: ----------------------------------------------------- So how do I stop that? Going back to the dogs in the house, how do I stop her? I’ve already told you that I don’t have it in me to take them back to certain death at the pound. I like dogs too much to do that. I just don’t want to be overrun with them. So I tell her, “No more dogs” and she brings in another one – short of tossing it out, which we’ve already established that I can’t/won’t do, what can I do? The C tells me to take it to the pound. When I say that I can’t do that, he just shrugs and says that I’ll just have to live with it then. Is that really my only choice? -----------------------------------------------------
Since you are allowing yourself to be a doormat, then you are no longer a victim of your wife's NPD, you are a *willing participant*. You are a volunteer in her disease.
I can't tell you how to be a better doormat or how to make the pain more suitable for you.
I can tell you this, your chances of ever getting anything out of your marriage that you WANT such as sex, are just about zero. No one likes a doormat, especially someone with NPD.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
