Yes, he is the one who told me that there is an expectation of how he should be acting if I'm in lingerie. Never thought of it, either. Heck an appreciative look is all I'm after, anyway!
But he is extremely self conscious. If I was saying that in person to you, I'd have dragged out the extremely to ridiculous lengths, lol. He turns so many things back on himself and I sometimes even tease him a little and say, Ya know...it's not about you!! when something clearly has nothing to do with him but he's convinced that people will be staring at him.
This is a big problem with him and I can't imagine how much it affects him but, as his partner, it begins after a while to look selfish. I wanna roll my eyes and say, Oh for craps sakes people will not be looking at YOU, will you relax! But I don't.
So books like the Sex Diet are out for that same reason--he'd feel self conscious doing the exercises no matter how mild they are. Put simply, HE CANNOT GET OVER HIMSELF.
It's frustrating but there are sooooooo many good things about him and our life, that I've (mostly) accepted it. Stupid valentines day has my brain running but it'll quit.
