Quote: So, guys, do you like your women naked, no matter if she has a great body or not? I've had 3 babies, all c-sections (yikes) and they've taken their toll on my belly. It makes me VERY self conscious and rarely sleep naked, but usually with a silky nighty of some sort, enough coverage for late night trips to check out kids, etc.
Yes, of course. It's about love, not what your body looks like. My wife wears body armor to bed too, and has for years. She used to sleep naked. I can't remember the last time I saw her naked. Even during sex, a shirt stays on, and pants go on asap. It's very frustrating.
I did not say EVERY case. What I said was many LD/ND TEND to do xyz. You can always find exceptions. It is amazing though how many people fit the general patterns.
Actually I was responding to your use of the word "tend"...that leads me to think, when you use it the way you did, that you are saying a larger proportion of those people would do this...or that.
CeMar....if you look for patterns in just about anything, you will find the pattern to fit what you are looking for. Patterns can be indicators and they can be useful tools....but sometimes they mean nothing.
However, I don't agree that it's due to LD or even ND. I think that you do not have any intimacy in your marriage and that is why her whole personality seems to have changed. You two are not connecting in any ways that are meaningful to the other and therefore the emotional and physical buffers (ie, bed clothes) get piled on.
Quote: My LDH is VERY comfortable nude. He sleeps nude, walks around nude, leaves the door open when he pees, leaves the bathroom door inside our bedroom open when he is taking a shower. He is comfortable with his nude body. He isn't always comfortable with the physical shape he is in and is VERY hung up about sex. I don't really think of him as LD but more as anxious, lacking in confidence and a poor priortizer.
Are you and I married to the same man!
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
I (SDH) only do when I think (hope) something might happen that night. My LDW very rarely does, mostly flannel PJ's, pants and top. This does not pose much of a problem, however. On the few times she comes to bed naked, I know she's REALLY in the mood, and it's doubly exciting. The other times, being able to slowly unbutton that flannel top is VERY nice indeed.
