Mellanie said: ------------------------------------ So, guys, do you like your women naked, no matter if she has a great body or not? ------------------------------------
Absolutely.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
No we don't sleep naked. I hate to be to confined in bed so I sleep in a t-shirt and panties. He used to sleep nude the first couple years of marriage. But when we had kid's he started wearing pj's. Even now when we have a baby-sitter for the night I usually suggest we sleep nude but he won't.
Actually, I was answering Mellanie. Kids can change things. If you're getting up, if they're coming into the room, or whatever. I'm just saying that I like W nude regardless of what her body looks like - or what she thinks it looks like.
Guys, I've seen her picture and she's a knockout! She's trim and beautiful. Ok, I've never seen her abdomen but childbirth battle scars are a fact of life in/on women our age.
Mel, they'd be so dazzled by your beauty and kindness (and squeezy bits, lol) that they wouldn't care about scars.
Well, I am trying the "sleeping nude again" experiment. I keep a robe by the bed in case the kiddos need something. We have a baby monitor to hear the baby and everyone else is old enough to knock. I went to bed before H and I could tell he was surprised when he reached over the snuggle and got skin. He positioned his hand on my upper thigh and went to sleep instead of around my shoulders. I think he doesn't even realize it yet but the skin piqued his interest so he went right for his favorite zone. I'll give him some time to figure it out. I'm back to my "not chasing the man" mode again. He has me so ticked (on my thread) that the most I will do for a while is present opportunity.
You make a good point, the very LD probably would not sleep nude. The real conflict in the HD/LD relationship is not really just about sex ( I am not talking about slightly LD, I am talking more about ND). The REAL problem is in the way we each lead our lives. When people are HD (yes even my wife at one time), they live their lives completely differently then when they are LD. A persons personality is greatly impacted by their "Sexual Confidence". Like with sleeping naked, people that sleep naked tend to NOT have hangups about the way they look. Being naked tends to make them FEEL sexy. It tends to make them feel GOOD about themselves. But for my wife, she feels the opposite because of body image, because she is trying to avoid sex, because she does not feel safe, because we have kids in the house (youngest is 9 though). It's like for one to be happy, the other must be unhappy.
I would challange anyone though to show me where some counselor or book or article RECCOMENDS bundling up like an eskimo to HELP your marriage.
Gotta challenge this. My LDH is VERY comfortable nude. He sleeps nude, walks around nude, leaves the door open when he pees, leaves the bathroom door inside our bedroom open when he is taking a shower. He is comfortable with his nude body. He isn't always comfortable with the physical shape he is in and is VERY hung up about sex. I don't really think of him as LD but more as anxious, lacking in confidence and a poor priortizer. I am HD and am known to wear anything at all to bed - nothing, sexy nighties, tank top and undies, flannel pj's all depending on the temperature in the room and my own emotional temperature.
My H and I both sleep naked. When we were living together and our R was very rocky we both wore something in bed. Obviously each telling the other that it was a no go zone Having read the posts here though I am going to get myself a slinky little nightie at the weekend just to add a little mystery to my S
I'm there with you on this CeMar, I don't agree with your take on this. I'm not comfortable with my body, I can find many flaws with it....yet I sleep nude because I stay cooler and I'm more comfortable. My LDH is very comfortable with his body and doesn't have a problem being nude in front of me....for him it's merely habit to sleep with something on. For me, it's habit to sleep nude(I did it when I was LD too)...it has nothing to do with my self perception.
I am now starting to wear something more often, because I often have to deal with our child at night or very early in the morning....but it has nothing to do with my self perception. My LDH is starting to come to bed nude more often....when I ask why, he says he just felt like it.
I agree that someone's self perception can have an affect on this issue...but not necessarily. I think though that it comes down to other factors....like having children to deal with, habits...and even intimacy. If you don't feel close to someone you might use extra clothing to keep them at a distance.
Having read the posts here though I am going to get myself a slinky little nightie at the weekend just to add a little mystery to my S