It could be the weight. Also, preferences do change. Maybe she found a new set of pj's that she feels really comfortable in and they happen to be the "eskimo gear" you describe. I've gained a little weight too and it affects whether or not I walk around a lot naked. Of course when I was young and fit and had no fat, I was shy, so I didn't then either. If I had that body now, I'd go outside naked!
I don't know what the answer is, but I don't think it has all that much to do with being HD/LD. I could be wrong though. I know that after the newness of the relationship wore off, for me, being a mom of 3, working full time and being a full time student, quality sleep suddenly became extremely important. I admit to letting that part of my relationship go more than I should have from pure exhaustion.
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If she has gained weight it very well could be her own issue with her body...this is something she has to come to grips with. What about buying her a nightie of some type, that's a light fabric, so you can feel her through it, but that gives her enough coverage so that she's not self concious?
I just recently bought myself two nightshirts....they are a very soft lightweight t-shirt fabric, but with lace around the neck...so a bit feminine and pretty too. My H comments on how much he likes these on me....why? Cause they cling to the right spots I can sleep in these because I don't get warm in them (very rare for me). I've started wearing something on occassion to bed simply because of our S.
My thinking in this suggestion is that...it might at the very least provide you with some of what you want, nope not bare skin....but as thin as these are it doesn't inhibit you touching her or feeling anything either....yet it might help ease some of her body image aingst too.
Quote: So your spouse's physical comfort means less to you than your own physical comfort?
I just wanted to point out that this question goes both ways--Cemar should put his wife first but his wife should also put him first.
The person needing the snuggling should not have to continuously go without simply because their spouse doesn't like it. The logic--if it's good logic--must go both ways.
Right, but I guess I'm saying that MrsCemar needs to absolutely take into account his preference/need for skin, just as much as he is to take into account her preference/need for jammies.
I hate to point this out....but we're assuming here that he's "told" her he'd prefer that. He hasn't said whether he has or hasn't communicated this to her.
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I think it may be somewhat exclusive of HD/LD as well. But I would also be surprised to hear if there were many LD individuals who slept in the nude. It is just a matter of personal preference. Some people may care less what their spouse wears to bed, but my personal preference would be nude or at a minimum an outfit where I could feel a decent portion of her skin.
So, guys, do you like your women naked, no matter if she has a great body or not? I've had 3 babies, all c-sections (yikes) and they've taken their toll on my belly. It makes me VERY self conscious and rarely sleep naked, but usually with a silky nighty of some sort, enough coverage for late night trips to check out kids, etc.
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I can sleep in these because I don't get warm in them (very rare for me). I've started wearing something on occassion to bed simply because of our S.