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[Tim297181]

TMU,
I just had achance to catch up on your sitch! Sounds like you are doing what you need to do, and make strides forward for YOURSELF!
In regards to talking to your W about C and some of the issues! I agree be very specific, and one thing I found is talk about things with your W in regards to understanding her that helps build her self esteem. I know that sounds weird to help build their self esteem, but they are in a low place also, and showing that you care and understand helps them feel better. In my sitch I know over time I always tried to point out the good things my W had done (although at times all I could think about was how evil she was!). When we talked honestly my W said she appreciated me showing her good qualities when she knew I was feeling bad about the seperation, and it showed her my strength.
Really I do not know if that is good advice or not but it did help me.
Right now personally I can't take my own advice because I have taken it to far on being kind to my W. I know I have to back off on how great my W is and stop being so helpful to her. She needs to find and feel some pain that I may not always be there for her. I am not being cold or resentful towards her. I am just running to her whenever she wants or needs a shoulder to cry on. I guess alittle tough love.
Anyways TMU in just a short time I see some improvements in sitch, and be proud it has come from the changes in what you have done!