Ok gang, time to slap me again... I was thinking today at lunch that my wife has asked me what kinds of things I am doing at C. I have told her that I am really learning about me and what things I need to improve, even as it relates to the R. Well, that is only part of the truth. What I did not tell her was all the things I realized she was trying to tell me all this time that I either ignored or just didn't understand. I feel I am in a much better place to understand and empathize/validate now since going through this. Ok, my question is, since she asked and I didn't really tell her all there was to tell, I think I need to let her know that through therapy and just plain ole soul searching, I have come to see a lot of what she was going through and understand it now. I would want to be specific about the feelings I now know she was communicating to me (no mind reading, just recognizing that she DID try to tell me things). Is this a good idea? Same as R talk? I am on the fence, obviously. Part of me thinks it is a very good idea because I think on the couple occasions she asked me about C, I got the feeling that she didn't like my answers because they were pretty short and vague. Of course, I am mind reading here so... The other part of me, the DB focused part, doesn't think any R talk is ok right now. So, please, comments from one and all!
