Sorry for not posting earlier, but I've been catching up with your sitch. First off, let me say that you are coping very well under the circumstances. This whole process is very hard and takes SO much patience. Obviously you know that forcing the issue will not get you anywhere right now. It may be hard to imagine that what you are doing is right in the long run, but I believe in the process for a couple of reasons. If anything, at the end of the day, we will be better people for it. We can look back and know that we did everything that WE could to save the relationship. Secondly, allowing the WAS to come to their own decisions about the R is the only way that we will ever know if they this is what they truly want. I go back and forth with this all the time because I want so badly to tell my W that its my way or the highway, but I think, what if she chooses? If its "my way", will she truly be doing it for the R, or for the kids, house, money, etc. If she chooses "the highway", can I live with myself knowing that I caused it to happen?
All tough questions. My hope is that your W comes to her senses quickly and that you both can establish goals for the future. Keep up the good work TMU. I rely upon you for inspiration!
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
