Hi there! I skipped over to your thread and am glad I did. I, too, am sorry for what you are going through. This sucks!
My H is having an EA with a girl at work and, like you, I wonder if I can forgive him after all of this is over.
It's like...right now I am so focused on doing whatever I can to save this marriage...changing myself, accepting what 'is', living each day positivly, etc. I often wonder...if all my efforts actually succeed in bringing us together again, will I really, deep down, have forgiven him for his EA? I think I need to work on forgiving him WHILE I'm working on everything else, but I have a hard enough time staying positive, doing 180's (they don't come natural for me), etc. that when do I have time to work on the forgiveness?
And...I'll be honest. A part of me doesn't 'want' to forgive him. That sounds very immature, doesn't it.
