Keep reading Divorce Remedy! That is the book I always refer back to! Goals, expectations, visualization, and hope.....YES all very similar, and I feel very necessary! I always picture what my goals are, and what I hope to see in the marriage! I have to do that because it is what keeps me going! I think what needs to be done is be mature enough and secure enough to know that at times that your goals and what you hope for may not always be reality! This brought a quote I use at work "Perfection is the goal, but excellence will be tolerated!" I always visualize what the perfect marriage and W would and will be, and i know that it probably won't happen. WHat it does help me with is focus on what I need to so to support the goal of what I want in life!~
Tim
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