You will get that chance TMU! Hopefully it will be soon with your W! Remember to look to the future to change not the past! Learn from the past, prepare for the future, live for today! My only mistake and I am not sure what a person can do is get that security that when you begin to recouncil! I thought I had it many times over, but obviously I didn't (or at least to the extent I believed) Right now my W is in that evaluation stage which is like standing in the street naked wondering if the clothes you sent for will ever come! So I don't know what those signs of security are or will be but we should all watch for them!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
