I like that question of "Knowing what I know now..." My answer would be a resounding HELL YES too because I now feel equipped to be there for my wife and really help her though times when I used to just badger her to feel better when she was upset, etc. This is actually my greatest hope; that I get the chance to do some things all over again and do them with empathy and understanding instead of my old "mr. fixit" attitude. I used to be afraid of sadness and emotional pain, especially in my W. Now I see them for what they are, natural parts of life that pass and respond best to validation and comfort, not conversation and judgment. I just want to go back. I could not promise things would be different, but I would love to try!
