TMU you sound alot better! I hope you are feeling so! You have given some sound advice and I really appreciate your views. Just from your postings it sounds like you are GAL! Good for you!

So talking about checking the status of your R and an uncommunacting W check the conversation my W and I had when she came home from studying last nite:
(Sipping wine, she is on the couch I am on the recliner this after she told me how study group went)
W: Are you OK?
me: Its tough but I am getting through today.
me: Are you OK?
w: No....this hurts.
me: I am hurting too.
me: Would you like to talk about anything?
w: no
long pause she is looking real stressed and I touch her hand and she holds it.
me: Can I give you hug?
w: yes
we hug anf then she asks me to sit on the couch!
Nite went on from there and all she said before we went to bed was "Thanks for all your support and love you have shown" What the #$%# does that mean? No ILY and I did not say ILY back!
Trying to read between the lines!

Tim my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1