You bring up a good point. Right now I believe that I'm in such a ones-sided relationship, but I can recall comments from W in the past years that really seem to make sense now. Whether or not it was true, I can remember her telling me that it felt like she was "just there." Hmmm, I know how that feels now. Two years ago, when I was the guilty spouse, after I came back she never accepted (until recently) that I came back because I loved her. She believed it was for the kids.

So yeah, coming to a deeper understaning of my wife is one true goal that I have in all this. It may not save the R, but in the end, I will be a better person for it.

"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu