I have stayed the course and thanks for pointing that out. I guess I deserve a little credit for that. I had moments where I didn't want to for sure! It really sucks to be this far along in a marriage and realize that not only will it take work to preserve/save but that you have not even had a basic foundation in your life from which to work. My wife too is the non-communicative one. She just keeps everything inside and maybe it erupts much later, or just stays in forever, poisoning her from the inside out...and everyone around her as well.
I was thinking, reading hope's thread, that it's interesting how we all talk so much about the pain of being in one-sided relationships, or empty relationships, devoid of love. We talk about this being the worst pain of our lives and how we can't bear it. Well, I am not really playing the devil's advocate...ok...I am... My wife says she's felt that way for YEARS. If that's true, then can you imagine your spouse, whom you so clearly love, going through what you're going through right now for days, weeks, months...for years? I can't imagine it. Maybe we need to give them a LITTLE credit for something. I don't know what because they did a piss-poor job of communicating their hurt to us (or we did a piss-poor job of listening to them try) and ended up taking the easy (ok, not really) way out and walking into the arms of a human hallucinogen. I am just trying to get to that elusive place where I can truly understand my W and maybe really let her go on the journey she needs to get better again. Ah, but then again, if I don't think she's on the right path....
