Quote: Well, it has always told me that she was upset that SHE did not have a life but I always encouraged her to. I suppose if I am honest with you, I have realized that my words to her were "go out and have a great time with your friends" but my actions said "ok, now you've had your fun, it's time to make sure you meet my needs now." I would always get upset if she was late, or didn't act particularly affectionate towards me when she came home. I guess I was looking for her to validate ME and it always ended up making her feel bad/angry/stupid for going out in the first place. She was happy, then she came home to me stewing over things that did not even happen yet...
TMU, in reading your posts, sometimes its amazing that I see myself in them.
I basically used to do the same thing, my wife used to be uspet with me when I had a life, although it really wasn't much, but compared to her it was. I used to tell her to go do things, but I found myself acting the same way when she would run late, etc. Scary.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
