Journaling ...and I need an intervention NOW! Stop me before I do something I will regret!
Well folks, this may be a turning point. My W just called and asked me if there was any way for me to change my hair appointment to tomorrow.
W: Hey, it's me, can you hear me (it was windy).
M: Yes, I can here you.
W: Can you change your appointment to tomorrow?
M: Not really, why?
W: Well, I wanted to go out for a few hours.
M: Ok, well...
W: I just needed to get s5 some new pants. I'm shopping now but I could not find what I wanted. I just wanted to go to the mall and see what they had.
M: Well, I had to book 2 weeks out as it is so I doubt I can get an new appointment for tomorrow.
W: Ok, fine. It's ok.
M: Why don't you go tomorrow?
W: (no answer to that) It's ok, if you could have changed it, fine, if not it's fine too.
M: Ok. See you later.
W: See ya.
Ok, well of course I'm now on edge. Of course she's trying to see the OM. I am now more determined than ever to have a conversation setting some boundaries on this thing and letting her know that if we're playing the game then let's just play it in the open.
Actually I called her back...
M: Hey, if you need to make plans, why not just go when I get home.
W: No, I don't want to be out late. I have things to do tonight.
M: Ok, just trying to help.
Yea, I know, bad DBer but I thought it was the least I could do to offer her a solution to her problem (oops, old me again).
What do I do. I can't keep this up the way it is now. I can't keep pretending not to know what she's up to and the more she lies to me, the more I hate this. It seems like I would be happier if she'd just be honest and stop all the games. Does that make sense?
