Arrgghh! Typing forever only to loose it in cyberspace....
I will try to remember what I wrote. Totally, you are over analyzing and obsessing again. Put up that stop sign. Don't be a slave to your hostile emotions and negative attitude. Without realizing it you will be accomplishing exactly the opposite of what you want.
Tim, way to go!! Guard you attitudes and actions and keep them positive.
I know, we think we look spineless. Again, we are projecting what they think of us. We know we are not spineless. We know we have faults, and we are going to work on improving them. Accept that is is "sick" and "unhealthy" to believe that you have the power to control enough to fix, correct, change, heal or resuce your spouse. Practice letting go of the things/people in life over which you have no control or power to change.
