Totally, I am sorry to hear you had a bad night - part of the rollercoaster ride I guess. Check out www.coping.org/control; there are good articles on developing detachment and letting go of uncontrollables. Like you and Tim this is all that I think about. I need to let it go for awhile - I know when I have in the past things between my H and I are not so tension filled. I like your analogy "killing me softly with deceit". Well I will kill him with kindness and my unconditional love... Hope you have a better day today
