Quote: I know I can't continue to dwell on the A or the chance that the affair is continuing with the OM currently, but it does occupy my thoughts 99.9999999% of the time! But like you said you can't keep asking about it to our spouse! I am really going to try and "Act as if" things are going good, and not react to the OM or strange calls unless she brings it up! I am going to stay on the course of killing her with kindness and still remain loving and passionate about her, and respect her space! Who knows but she is still responding to me, but I think she is waiting for me to attack her about the OM. I am not going to and I will let her come to me about it. Very hard because I think she is not wearing her new wedding rings anymore, and I know she is contact with the OM! All I can say is patience!
Tim, my man, you and I are in the same boat. I am taking that approach too because anything else would be...well...uncivilized Seriously, I have no choice right now. She is behaving "as if" she's not sleeping with another guy so I will behave "as if" I am not living with a beautiful woman I love with every fiber of my soul that is killing me softly but surely with every deceitful breath she takes. Dramatic, sure, but I really feel that way right now. I just broke down in my D5's bed as I put him down to sleep. My wife came in and gave him her hugs and kisses and made sure she said "I love you" to him several times. Do you have any idea how much it hurts to hear that and know that you will probably never hear it again? Yea, spouse you do, huh. Anyway, let's hang in and try to get through this. It will happen and I suppose we'll be stronger or something. All I know is that I am tired as hell of self pity and I want to change. I really do.
