That is my question also? How do we get our spouses excited and interested in us again? The OM in my situation I believe is attractive because everyone that knows my wife from her doctor to all her friends and family told her to run as far away from this man as possible because of his drinking and gambling issues! But there she is taking a phone call from him in front of me at our friends kids birthday party. She did say one of the reasons she wants to stay in touch with him is because everyone said not to, and she does not want to abandon him in his time for need! So my question is do I need to be needy and an alcoholic to have my W love me again? So being the nice guy, great father, and stable career is a negative and does not need her support? Any ideas? Do I become cold and aloof and see what happens, but this is totally against my personality?
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
