Funny, I just read Frank_D's therapist's analogy that a spouse having an affair is like a puppy, who never had an aggressive bone in his body, seeing a rabbit for the first time and sprints off to chase it. There is no thought other than the chase while it is in progress. Once the chase is over, he goes back to being the lovable puppy again. It's amazing how "mature" my wife is in all this. It's almost like she's here, reading these boards (she's not, she hates this kind of stuff). I say mature meaning that she seems to know all the right things to say to validate what we here hear all the time; it will fizzle, she'll realize what she's doing. My wife, from the get go, has insisted that this was not going to last. Wish I was so sure, and I wish I was sure I could forgive her after it is over and she thinks that we can just continue with life as usual...
