Totallymessedup,
You and I are in the exact same situation. I have been looking for help here (not really getting too much though...)
H and I have been married for 12 years. Discovered affair in September it has been a roller coaster ride ever since. In Dec. got the ILYBNILWY speech. He also told me that he was no longer attracted to me.
Yesterday we finally talked, a little, about our situation. He says affair is over (though I don't believe him) He gives me a hug in the morning as he goes to work - that is it. He does not feel anything else for me. I am having a really hard time with this. In fact, it feels like it is detroying my soul. He just can't have his cake and eat it too. We have 3 kids - 4, 9 & 10 and I cannot get myself to end this marriage. I want it to work. In another post I asked for help on getting my husband to become interested in me again. (no replys ). I don't want to live with a roommate as I am sure you feel the same. Maybe we can come up with goals together - what do you think?